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So, not surprisingly, people thought he was a bit mad.

Until that is, the British team won it in two years. Oh, and then they won four of the next five races as well!

With results like this, we should probably pay attention to his methods, no?

He did not start by telling them to train harder or go faster. Instead he focused on small areas where they...

In her Harvard Business Review article The Power of Small Wins and her book The Progress Principle, Teresa Amabile explains that when we are feeling good, we tend to be more productive and creative at work. When we are not feeling so good, we are not as productive and creative.

Ok sure.

But the million dollar question is this: how do we make sure we are feeling good most days so that we can be productive and creative at work (and be motivated on our journey of self-growth?)

Here is the key which she discovered after much research.

(Amabile has surveyed hundreds of top executives...

We need to embrace the fact that self development and the good life (and every project, thing and relationship within that good life is) an ENDLESSLY EVOLVING PROCESS.

• Endlessly: As in, it will NEVER end. Nope we are never done working on ourselves. We need to do this EVERY SINGLE DAY.
• Evolving: The whole point of life (according to spiritual teachings and many philosophers) is...

He says:

• "Draw a horizontal line. Above that line, put ‘Thinking Space.’ Below the line, put ‘Work Space.’"
• "You know what the ‘Thinking Space’ is good for?" (do you have a good answer to this? Me neither!)
• "NOTHING. Nothing happens in the Thinking Space."

Of course, planning, reflecting, taking a perspective, strategizing are all thinking tools which are vital for us to take wise action.

Now, most big problems are not that easily solved. And when our minds are consumed with the enormity of it, it can be challenging to come up with an action plan that will make the problem go away completely.

Steve Chandler in Time Warrior has some great advice for times like this:

"Replace worry with action. Don’t worry. Or rather, don’t just worry. Let worry change into action. When you find yourself worrying about something, ask yourself the action question, "What can I do about this right now?"

And then do something. Anything. Any small thing".

This is hugely powerful. Really. Please try it.

Are you worried about something right now?

Do a quick check in to see what part of this problem is in your circle of control.

"The next time you’re worried about something, ask yourself, "What...

"Oh the things that we could do", we tell ourselves, "if only we had the courage and the confidence".

In other words, we wait to take action on what matters to us, till the feelings of confidence arise within us.

Here’s the thing: It is foolish to have confidence in something in which we have no practice!

Remember when we learnt how to drive? Good thing we did not have much confidence before we had lots of practice, right? This fear and caution helped us to prepare, be careful and do our best on the road.

And as we repeated the act of driving scared many many times, the feelings of confidence began to appear . . . until we were no longer scared.

Similarly, in order to gain confidence in anything at all, we first have to do it scared.

Confidence does not precede action, it develops as a result of taking action.  

Emerson once said, "The greater part of courage is having done it before."

He also...

Of course, our hands and legs are not paralysed. . . . our minds just lead us to think that they are.

When we are stuck, it is time to ask ourselves the all-important anxiety-busting question: What’s my next action?

"I learned I can solve all this worry and decision-making anxiety by taking action. By admiring action. By having action plans, by asking, whenever stuck, WHAT’S MY NEXT ACTION? And then, doing that action NOW. Action. Movement. Decisive energy. Solves most everything!" Steve Chandler in Time Warrior

Feeling stuck? Worrying about the future? Anxious? Feeling immobilized?

Remind yourself that you are not actually immobilized. You can still move your arms and legs (try it now!)

"What I call "doing the dishes" is the practice of loving the task in front of you. Your inner voice guides you all day long to do simple things such as brush your teeth, drive to work, call your friend, or do the dishes. Even though it’s just another story, it’s a very short story, and when you follow the direction of the voice, the story ends. We are really alive when we live as simply as that—open, waiting, trusting, and loving to do what appears in front of us now…What we need to do unfolds before us, always—doing the dishes, paying the bills, picking up the children’s socks, brushing our teeth. We never receive more than we can handle, and there is always just one thing to do. Whether you have ten dollars or ten million dollars, life never gets more difficult than...

I love Steve Chandler’s wisdom on dealing with stress and overwhelm by focusing all of our attention on the one task in front of us.

Here is how he puts it in his great book Time Warrior: "In a simple life in which you only do what’s in front of you, there can be no overwhelm, ever. That life is yours to create. And it never arrives, it must be created."

So next time we are feeling overwhelmed, it might be useful to remind ourselves that it may be because we are spending too much attention on thinking about the future and all the things you think you need to get done, instead of actually doing some of them.  

Byron Katie in Loving What Is puts it this way: "We never receive more than we can handle, and there is always just one thing to do."

Just one thing. Pick one thing to do and do it with...