Develop a mantra
A highly effective way to practice equanimity is to talk to ourselves in the third person. In this process we become our own coaches for the moment and talk ourselves through the situation.
It is fun to come up with a creative mantra that we can use as a signal to calm down.
When I find myself getting triggered, I imagine a big hook waiting to hook me into a predictable and familiar overreaction. A reaction that will most surely cause me to regret what I say. I then remind myself:
"Come on Marzia, remember to 'engage brain before operating mouth'".
Using your first name in the 3rd person in this way is a highly effective way to remind yourself of your values and coach yourself through a situation which would usually trigger you.
So go on, develop a mantra or two for yourself to help you when you find yourself getting triggered.
Here is a really good example (a 9 min video clip):
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