Ask for what you need
Wouldn't it be lovely if our significant others always knew what we wanted and needed without being told?
While it may be okay to wish this, we sometimes get frustrated when our spouse cannot
read our minds because we have told ourselves "they ought to know".
We begin to expect them to read our minds and predict what we need without having to ask for it.
Not only is this highly unrealistic, it is also a bit silly to blame someone for not being able to read our minds, don't you think?
Women, in particular, seem to find it challenging to ask for what they want.
Once you get the hang of it, however, it becomes much easier (and saves so much time!) to ask for what we need in simple and clear terms.
Try these on for practice!
- it is valentine's day next week. It would make me very happy if you plan an evening out for us.
- It would mean a lot to me if you tried harder to talk to my brother in law even though I know you don't find anything in common with him.
- Can you please watch Samir on Saturday morning? I am exhausted and could do with a sleep in.
- Can we please spend some time talking about our schedule next week? It is stressing me out that we have not planned anything yet.
Does asking in this manner guarantee that you will always get what you want?
Of course not.
But it greatly increases the chances that you will, since you are giving the other a clear idea of what you would like.
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