What can you do in six seconds? (DW#467)
Oct 08, 2018
Yesterday we talked about how an emotional overreaction or flooding lasts a mere 6 seconds.
What you do during those six seconds can be either helpful or harmful in dealing with the situation that you are facing.
What is NOT useful to do whilst you are pausing is to replay the situation in your mind, think about how the other person is wrong or to plot your revenge.
Instead try this:
- Ask yourself: What do you want from this situation and for yourself?
- Remind yourself that you only have control over your own thoughts and behaviours.
- Get in touch with your core values. What do you stand for? What can you say or do that comes from those values rather than in reaction to what the other person is doing.
These steps will help you gain your composure, to focus on what is most important in the here and now and prepare you to continue the conversation minus the overreaction.
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