Self-serving bias (DW#505)
A person who suffers from a self-serving bias will attribute all positive events or achievements to himself while seeing any negative events or mistakes as outside his control.
If I do well at work, it is my hard work.
If I mess up a project, it is my boss who did not give proper instructions.
If I am a good hostess, it is my own creativity and hard work.
If the food turns out bad, it is my children’s fault who distracted me while I was cooking.
If my relationship is going well, it is because I am such an awesome spouse.
If we are going through a difficult patch, it is because my spouse is being extraordinarily challenging.
This pattern of thinking causes a person to refuse to admit mistakes or flaws and to live in a distorted reality where he or she can do no wrong.
Since self growth and emotional and spiritual maturity begins with accountability, this cognitive distortion can keep us stuck in unhealthy personal and relationship patterns for a long long time.
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