I love you (DW#444)
Have you ever heard new couples talk on the phone? They often end long phone conversations by saying "I love you" (and then "I love you more . . ." and on and on . . .) As the relationship progresses, the "I love you" can turn into "Ok, bye", especially if there the relationship is strained or there is unaddressed conflict.
Expressing love verbally is equally, if not more important, in long term relationships.
Even if it is a ritual which you engage in without thinking, it is worth considering getting into the habit of saying "I love you" regularly.
Recent research suggests that saying these three simple words is more than simply expressing your romantic feelings. It actually represents a commitment to future behavior. This implies that when we say I love you, we are not only expressing our present feelings, but we are committing that our actions in their presence and when apart will demonstrate this commitment.
Saying I love you, then, is a declaration that we are in this for the long haul. That we are committed to the well being of the other and to the well being of the relationship. That we will not knowingly do anything to put this relationship at risk. That we are dedicated to working at it. That we will demonstrate our love and commitment in words and in actions.
And in addition to all of the above, "I love you" is a rather nice thing to hear every day, isn’t it?
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