Apply the stranger standard (DW#541)
This week, let’s continue talking about marriage hacks – shortcuts or easy ways to make our relationships better. Attitudes and behaviours that don’t take much time or effort but may have a major impact.
Today’s hack is about applying the stranger standard at home.
What is the stranger standard? It is the standard of behaviour that we use with strangers and outsiders. The minimum level of courtesy, respect and goodwill with which we deal with the world in general.
Sometimes we take our closest relationships so much for granted that we "use up" our best self for strangers, acquaintances and others who don’t really matter that much. We are able to be respectful and kind to those who we come across for short periods. We use up our good will and bring home only what is left over. The tiredness, the grouchiness and the frustrations.
The stranger standard hack means that you are at least as respectful and courteous inside the home as you are outside. At least as. At the very minimum.
Now let’s be honest: Applying the stranger standard at home is not going to reward you with deep connection or intimacy. But it may just reverse a negative spiral that you may be in at the moment. It is a good start to treat each other with the respect and courtesy that you extend to strangers.
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